My own brand of self-criticism can be sneaky. “I should be more disciplined.”“I’m wasting my time.”“I’m not organized enough.” It’s easy to write these thoughts off as “just facts” and convince myself they are helpful reminders that push me to be better. But that’s a lie. The belief that we need to be hard on […]
I’ve struggled with making quick decisions for a large part of my life. According to my Mom, I was the kid who could spend hours in the candy aisle trying to make up his mind. This ambivalence didn’t exactly disappear in my thirties, which left a lingering sense of frustration. A couple of years ago, […]
Have you ever been in a conversation that escalated into a heated argument when you were only trying to express how you feel? It may go something like this: We’re simply trying to express our point of view to let the other person know how we feel. All of a sudden, they get defensive. Then […]
Have you ever stopped to consider: what is the real difference between positive and negative emotions? Most people understand that emotions like fear, sadness, anger, etc. are a part of life, but they view them as an unwanted part. The bad part. The avoidance of negative emotions is one of the biggest obstacles in our […]
We’re often told that it’s necessary to process our emotions in difficult situations, such as during a break-up, being let go from work, or becoming ill. It sounds reasonable, but we’re rarely told what this actually looks like in practice. Do we try to feel sad and force out some tears? Do we just allow […]
