I know the power of having a coach. It’s not what you might think. My coaches didn’t give me a tool that changed my life, or the ultimate blueprint for building a business. As a trusted, neutral third party, they offered me something much more valuable: They reminded me I wasn’t crazy. (Or, maybe that […]
What if someone said they had decided to keep shooting heroine instead of making a change in their life because they’d rather stick with the “comfortable” route? It’s easy to see the flaw in that logic, right? Yet, when it comes to our relationships or careers, we often pretend we’re choosing between a risky, yet […]
There are few things as ambiguous and frustrating as figuring out how to job search. Upon realizing that submitting an application isn’t going to work roughly 95% of the time, the process starts to look a little less black and white, and a little more bleak. The road to getting an interview or offer is […]
Creating a less stressful life often comes down to making difficult decisions easier. Decisions become difficult when we don’t know what we want. The paradox here is that one of the best ways to clarify what we want is by making decisions and taking action. That doesn’t resolve the fact that some decisions leave us […]
Have you ever been in a conversation that escalated into a heated argument when you were only trying to express how you feel? It may go something like this: We’re simply trying to express our point of view to let the other person know how we feel. All of a sudden, they get defensive. Then […]
Have you ever stopped to consider: what is the real difference between positive and negative emotions? Most people understand that emotions like fear, sadness, anger, etc. are a part of life, but they view them as an unwanted part. The bad part. The avoidance of negative emotions is one of the biggest obstacles in our […]
We’re often told that it’s necessary to process our emotions in difficult situations, such as during a break-up, being let go from work, or becoming ill. It sounds reasonable, but we’re rarely told what this actually looks like in practice. Do we try to feel sad and force out some tears? Do we just allow […]
I experienced the compound effect of meditation a couple of months ago. Once in a while, this type of experience will creep up on me. I was on a road trip headed out of state. Being in the car for a long period of time creates certain environmental stimuli that normally trigger some anxious feelings. […]
I used to believe that I wasn’t good at sticking with new habits and goals. The voice in my head still tells me that on occasion. It seems my habits and goals are constantly changing along with my circumstances and it can feel difficult to keep up. Over the years I have realized that this […]
Why do we wait to pick up the phone and make the call when we know we need to? It’s even easier to put off sending that difficult email or text. The answer to this question is simple. Our brains are wired to steer us towards comfort, and away from discomfort. The only thing that […]
