The G-word wasn’t part of my vocabulary for a long time. That is, except for “Oh my God” and “goddammit.” Now, the latter doesn’t quite feel right. As much as I’ve been interested in spirituality throughout my life, I’ve had a complicated relationship with that three-letter entity. It’s not that I ever had anything against […]
My new acquaintance had just finished telling me about his consistent practice of meditating twice a day for more than a few years. “I hate it,” he said, with a smile that seemed forced. The raw honesty filled me with delight. This guy had no interest in being the spokesperson for meditation. He just recognized […]
I’ve struggled with making quick decisions for a large part of my life. According to my Mom, I was the kid who could spend hours in the candy aisle trying to make up his mind. This ambivalence didn’t exactly disappear in my thirties, which left a lingering sense of frustration. A couple of years ago, […]
“Are my issues too small?” asked James, a recent coaching client. He was unsure if he was making the most of our session by discussing the household tasks filling up his to-do list. It didn’t take but a few seconds for him to answer his own question. Despite our seemingly mundane topic, he recognized we […]
Life planning can include yearly intentions, quarterly goals, daily habits, weekly habits, monthly goals, weekly to-do’s… the list goes on. I’d be amazed by anyone who wasn’t questioning how they could keep track of it all. Proactively planning our lives can feel like an impossible juggling act, whether or not one is a Type A […]
What if someone said they had decided to keep shooting heroine instead of making a change in their life because they’d rather stick with the “comfortable” route? It’s easy to see the flaw in that logic, right? Yet, when it comes to our relationships or careers, we often pretend we’re choosing between a risky, yet […]
A little over a month ago I was one of those people that make a post on Facebook that they’re leaving Facebook. However, I acknowledged I would be back in thirty days. Like many others who have read “Digital Minimalism” by Cal Newport, I was inspired (convinced) to try a 30-day digital detox. The Concept […]
There are few things as ambiguous and frustrating as figuring out how to job search. Upon realizing that submitting an application isn’t going to work roughly 95% of the time, the process starts to look a little less black and white, and a little more bleak. The road to getting an interview or offer is […]
Creating a less stressful life often comes down to making difficult decisions easier. Decisions become difficult when we don’t know what we want. The paradox here is that one of the best ways to clarify what we want is by making decisions and taking action. That doesn’t resolve the fact that some decisions leave us […]
When I first told people I was going to attend a 10-day silent meditation retreat, I didn’t hesitate using that word: retreat. However, that word evokes images of a beautiful view, feelings of comfort, and a do-whatever-you-want type of experience. And that was NOT this! This was a challenging course designed to train the mind, […]
